"Every one has two lives and the second starts when he realizes he just has one." - Confucius
We often wait until some turning moment in our life, which makes us to think about our present and our future. During this thinking process many realize that there's so much more that we wanted to do and hoped to accomplish. As result, we choose to adjust our present and re-define our path for the future in order to accomplish what we truly desire. So, instead of waiting until such turning moment, why not begin changing our present today and begin creating new opportunities for achieving our wants and needs sooner rather than later?
"The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own. No apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, or blame. The gift is yours - it is an amazing journey - and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins." - Bob Moawad
Our life is our own responsibility, and we alone can choose the path that we with for our life to take. Sure, we may want to blame other people or specific situations for the moments when times are tough, or for our failures, however, that's not going to change the fact that we took the actions that we did or made the decisions that we did, which eventually led us to where we are. We can point our blame finger somewhere else all we want, but at the end of the day we must remember that our life is the product of our own doing, and only we are able to change it.
"You can't solve a problem on the same level it was created. You have to rise above it to the next level." - Albert Einstein
Often, when we encounter a problem in our personal or professional lives, we tend to look for a solution where the problem or issue was discovered, instead of stepping outside of our immediate area of focus and look at each problem from a 'big picture' point of view. We tend to spend a long time searching for a solution asking 'inside the box' type of questions, when solution can only be found using global way of thinking, looking outside of the box. Solutions to many issues we uncover will remain undiscovered, with us simply patching the problem vs. actually solving it, unless we change our approach to problem solving. Don't look for a quick and easy solutions as they will not address the core issue that you may be dealing with at any given time. Look for the right solution using 'big picture' way of thinking, be patient, and ask right questions with long-term solution in mind.
"You will never reach your destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks" - Winston Churchill
Every day our attention and focus are already pulled in many different directions, which makes it very difficult to focus on one thing, one objective at a time. That is why if we hope to accomplish something that's important to us, we must focus on that one thing, ignoring all other distractions until our main goal and objective has been successfully accomplished. Because, if we stop and turn our attention to new distraction, we would never be able to move forward. It's like walking into a meeting and expecting to walk out solving all problems, issues and concerns. It's just not realistic. Instead, walking into a meeting and focusing all attention on one main core issue and/or objective, you should expect to make a significant progress or, even better, finding a solution with everyone's focus geared towards one thing, and not pulled in million different directions.
"You will come to know that what appears today to be a sacrifice will prove instead to be the greatest investment that you will ever make" - Gordon B. Hincley
Reason why so many people give up on their goals and plans shortly after embarking on what could be an exciting and highly rewarding journey is the sacrifices that many must make in their personal and professional lives. These sacrifices could be: time with family and kids, hours of sleep, consistency and predictability in daily schedule, financial resources. We want and expect immediate results and gratification with least amount of effort. However, when we realize that there's so much more required to achieve our plans and goals, many tend to give up opting into leaving things where they are and not create any waves in their lives.
"Cherish the ones who contribute to your growth" - Rob Hill Sr.
Forgetting those who was there when we were going through challenging times in our lives, when we did not have much, when we were at the very beginning of our personal development and our professional journeys, is one of the biggest mistakes we can make as individuals. We must remember that many if not all successes that we were fortunate to achieve in our lives were because of belief and support that we had received from individual(s) who believed in us and our success, even when we were doubting ourselves.
"Why do you cling to pain? There is nothing you can do about the wrongs of yesterday. It is not your to judge. Why hold on to the very thing which keeps you from hope and love?" - Leo Buseaglia
I think that it is very important for people to remember that we cannot change the past. We go through life's experiences - good and bad, happy and sad, and move on. Life moves on, so should we. We can, however, focus our time, energy, and focus on the present and the future. If we made mistakes in the past, we should have learned from those experiences, and don't repeat them again. Our past is a great teacher which can us to prepare for the future, as long as we are ready and willing to learn and let go of the past, while focusing on what's ahead of us instead.
"Everything you can imagine is real" - Pablo Picasso
Before great achievements become reality, they first start as plans and ideas in our minds. However, before they become plans in our mind we see these achievements in our dreams, in our imagination. Therefore, before we can achieve something great we first must see it in our imagination, in our dreams. Thus, if we have extreme determination desire, and patience to turn our dreams and images in our mind into reality, we have an opportunity to do so if we truly believe in ourselves and that we can capable of achieving great things.
"It's not about perfect. It's about effort. And when you bring that effort every single day, that's how change occurs." - Jillian Michaels
Often we worry about that what we do, how we do it, or that we aren't perfect. However, what we tend to forget is that we don't have to be perfect in everything that we do, or how we look. What is more important is doing your best in delivering top quality work and presenting yourself accordingly every single day. If you simply try and do your best in everything that you do or start, regardless what other people may think or say, you are doing your part. What's equally important to delivering top quality work is consistency. It's not enough to do it once or twice and stop. If you had started something, it's important that you finish it regardless how long it may take. Of course, as you know, personal development is one thing that never ends.
"No one is more hated than he who speaks the truth" - Pluto
I believe that it's important that we speak the truth. It is also important that we understand and accept the fact that many people do not like and are not ready to hear the truth Unfortunately, many of us prefer to live in a world where we are surrounded by lies, in a world of false reality which we create simply because it is much easier to live in such way. When we choose to avoid the truth to escape from conflict and escape from a reality, we create imaginary 'everything-is-good' world around us, even though somewhere deep inside we know that one day we would have to face the reality. And yet, we tend to hold on to false realities created by us in our own minds, just because we feel better that way, even if such feeling is temporary.