Article 158 - Unwavering Desire to Win

Facing and conquering life's obstacles through continuous hard work fueled by extreme determination

We should never expect for things just fall in our lap just because we want them to. In the real world, the opportunities come to those who are ready and willing to work hard to achieve them. And, I don’t mean working hard one day and slake off the next, I mean putting in time, energy, and extreme amount of effort every day, pursuing personal and professional objectives and life’s plans. There will be time when things get difficult, frustrating, often unreachable, but with the right mindset and unwavering desire to win, no matter what, we can, and we will overcome any challenge or obstacle in our own mind and in the real life.

Listen, I am not an exception to this, and have also experienced and continue to experience similar struggles as everyone else. There’ve been many times when I simply wanted to stop pursuing my goals and passion in life – joy of personal development, growth and, of course, writing. However, every time I wanted to stop because things got very difficult without any visible results of my efforts, I reminded myself why I am doing what I am doing. I reminded myself that it’s not just about me and what I want, but also those that count on me, who look up to me every day – my wife and my children, as well as other people who choose to follow my personal and professional development and growth story, who find my story motivational and get inspired to invest time and energy into their own growth and development. So, what I am trying to say here is that we’ve all been there at some point in our lives, where we’ve doubted ourselves, our passion, our goals, our ability to ever reaching them. It’s ok to have such moments, but what’s not ok is to allow those moments of temporary weakness and doubt define what we do with our life. If anything, those moments should serve as a reminder why we do what we do, and why it’s important for us to keep going no matter how challenging things may get at times. Also, we should not expect for any obstacle that we face on our path to just disappear on their own with time. We must put a lot of work and effort in understanding and finding ways to solve our own problems and limiting beliefs.

One of the biggest benefits of problem identification and its solution is an opportunity to learn something new during the solutioning process. It may not initially seem like we can derive anything useful or beneficial for us and our personal development, simply because we may not see the benefit right away. However, with time we often realize that while we were going through solution-finding journey, facing one obstacle after another, we learned and acquired not just one but several very important skills which can now use in other aspects of our personal and professional lives. For example, when I did not speak English, I faced many challenges and personal and professional roadblocks, when I didn’t know what to do, when I was made fun of and ridiculed by my peers, because, of my lack of English language knowledge and inability to respond appropriately, or being unable to write a complete sentence that actually made any sense, such experiences were very difficult at that time, over time it only made me stronger, more persistent, and more determined, making me want to work even harder and faster in learning the English language in order to prove myself and everyone who might have doubted me or made fund of me, that I can achieve anything. Such experience helped me to develop extreme determination and grit, which came to my rescue time and time again throughout my life. So, why stop when things do not go as planned? Why let somebody else tell you what you can or cannot do or accomplish? From personal experience, there’s not a single reason to do so.

Difficulties in life will pass as long as we are ready and willing to work hard to overcome them. Don’t expect for things to improve and go away over overnight, as often it takes time, in some more challenging situations it can take a long time before we are able to see the finish line. It’s like running a marathon, we do not see the finish line until we are on the final stretch of the race. Until then, it’s whole lot of nothing, and a lot of hard work, training, determination to finish, and belief in ourselves, knowing that we can. And, when we finally cross that finish line, the joy of personal accomplishment win over temporary doubts created by our own mind are some of the sweetest rewards that we can wish for. I had never personally ran the entire marathon, however, I did ran half-marathon without any prior preparations or training, which I definitely do not recommend anyone to do the same, as training is a very important part of preparing and getting ready for the big race. In my personal experience, running half marathon, I learned a lot about myself and reconfirmed my extreme sense of determination and never-give-up character which I had built over many years of going through challenges, failing and getting back up after each failure, to keep on trying again but differently, using lessons I’ve learned as result of prior failed experiences.

I will close with a quote by Napoleon Hill which I believe sums up everything that I wanted to highlight in this article – “Strength and growth come only through continuous effort and struggle.”​

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