Leadership and Personal Development Blog Series
Should you be sharing your challenges or issues with others or keep it to yourself?
If that makes you feel better by sharing your frustrations or challenges that you are facing with someone else, then go for it. However, you should keep few things in mind – how you sharing your negative energy with another person affect their day? Probably not in a positive manner. And, is the person you are sharing with able to help solve your problem? I believe that unless the person you are speaking with is able to help you in solving a particular problem, then there should be no reason to occupy their time with something they can do nothing about.
Some people share their problems or issues with others just to receive some understanding or compassion and that’s great, but is the compassion received is really genuine or was something said to you just to make you feel better? Does the person with whom you are sharing something person truly understands your problem on a very deep personal level, as much as you do? Most likely not. At the end of the day the problem still exists or a particular issue already had taken place in the past and there’s nothing you or anyone else can do anything about it now.
What to focus on vs. creating the empty noise?
You should be focusing your attention and energy towards problems/roadblocks that you can actually do something about, and not by sharing it with others, but by pro-actively looking for a solution or finding ways to prevent a problem from occurring in the future. Always own your mistakes and failures, don’t push them over onto someone else’s shoulders to deal with, even if you are simply telling them how you feel about a particular situation.
Be the person who looks for and finds solutions when problems arise, don’t be the one who always talks about their problems just to share them and feel better at that point of time, and then when finding out that when the next day comes around that the problem is still there and needs attention. Always be the problem owner and solution-finder, not the complainer.