Leadership & Personal Development Blog Series
We all at some point in our lives had failed at something that we had attempted to start. This does not have to be a major project or business idea, but even something as small making a paper airplane. I know that I’ve attempted many projects in the past, big and small, in which I had failed shortly after starting them. Was that a disappointing experience? Of course it was, however, that did not stop me from continuing and trying again.
What often happens when someone fails at a particular task or project, they stop trying, because they are afraid to fail again and experience the same dissatisfactory feeling. Additionally, after experiencing failure, some people will tend to blame either the situation, day, time, another person, or anything else they can find to blame for their own failure, versus analyzing their own mistakes and learning from them.
People that tend to point blame on situation, product, service, or someone else, tend to have a fixed mindset. They usually are not looking for ways to learn from their own mistakes or failures and improve, instead they strongly believe that it wasn’t them who made a mistake, but another person or that a specific situation was the cause of failure. As a result, people with fixed mindset tent to give up on trying again after failing the first time. Therefore, they may leave many great opportunities behind and shift their attention and focus on something else instead.
And then, there are people who learn from their mistakes, have open and growth-focused mindset, and seek every possible opportunity in learning how to re-create previously failed attempts with focus on improvement and ultimate success. In order to learn from and overcome mistakes and failures, one needs to have an open and growth-focused mind. If you give up on something that initially you were very passionate about but failed in, you may be leaving something very special to you behind, something that you did not have a chance to see or experience, simply because you decided to stop trying.
Whether you are someone who tend to have a fixed mindset or someone with growth-focused mindset, you can always recondition yourself to focus on continuous improvement and growth by simply asking yourself the following questions:
· Why is this important to me (whether it is a particular project, task, new book, or your own business)?
· What will I gain from stopping now?
· What could be the best outcome if I keep trying and succeed? What does success look like?
· What can I learn from my original mistake, attempt, or failure, to ensure that it does not happen again?
· How will I feel when I finally succeed?
· How will I feel knowing that I have stopped, being potentially a step away from succeeding?
· What do I need to change or adjust to ensure that I am successful next time?
These are the questions that I ask myself when I face a failure. By doing so I re-condition my mind to focus on finding an opportunity in every failure, learn from my mistakes and try harder, until I finally reach success. Last thing that I want is to look back 5-10 years and regret that I could have done something to reach my goal or dream, but because I had stopped trying, the life-time dream was placed on pause or even worse forgotten.
If your dream is to start your own business and pursue your passion in life, don’t stop trying simply because you may be facing some small or even large obstacles or limitations, regardless what they may be. You may be working an 8-5 job and putting in 40-50+ hours weekly and don’t see a way of starting something of your own, something that you love, while continuing working your day job. You may be thinking that I only have 2-4 hours every evening or less that I can spend at home with my family and children before it is time to eat dinner and go to sleep. You may also be facing financial challenges right this moment in your life and not seeing any way possible in finding resources to start your business after paying all of your bills and putting food your family’s table.
Well, guess what, I’ve been there and had faced every single obstacle mentioned earlier. If I had stopped trying and gave up, I would never start my own business online in order to pursue my passion in life, which is helping other people to become better, stronger, and more confident leaders, as well as helping them to develop personally and professionally by sharing my personal leadership experiences and knowledge.
So, please, do not stop trying of reaching your life-time dream simply because you had failed once or several times before. Just know that you may be one step or one attempt away from success of reaching your life-time dream. Keep going, keep making mistakes, learning from them, and trying again and again until you succeed.
**If you are interested in learning a 10-Step Failure Analysis Method by Alex Kheyson, you may purchase a copy of E-Book title: 'Failure Analysis Method by Alex Kheyson', which will be available in the Heart & Mind of a Leader online store on Tuesday, May 31st, 2016