Being happy and honest with yourself and those around you without hiding your true personality inside
We can hide our feeling and opinions inside of us or express them openly, his is the choice that we have every day, whether it is at home r in the place of business. However, often we are so afraid of our family our peers at work, or our boss, even when we know that expressing our thoughts and opinions to others would be the right thing to do. Why are we so afraid of being ourselves in front of others, especially in our place of business? Why are we afraid of displaying our genuine feeling and perspectives about a particular topic, and instead of speaking out we hide it inside of us for days, months, o sometimes even years? Wouldn’t it be so much easier to remove that fake ingenuine smile off of our face when we are not happy, and cry when we feel like crying, or smile when we feel like smiling, because, we feel good and are happy, not because somebody expects it from us? Somewhere deep inside of us we, of course, desperately want to answer – “yes,” to all these questions, but something is stopping many of us from doing so when we are surrounded by people with whom we socialize and/or work with. Why? Because, sharing our actual true feeling, thoughts, and opinions, may and usually does differ from opinions and feelings of others, and it would mean that we would be going against the flow, against the popular beliefs and expectations. But who cares? We all have unique personalities, our own unique character that makes us who we are. So, when we pretend to like something when we don’t, just to make someone else feel better, or smile when we don’t feel like doing so, for same reason mentioned earlier, we are in turn lying to ourselves. Is it really worth it? Does it make any sense to make ourselves feel poorly inside while making others happy and to like us more? Personally, I don’t think so. I believe that when we stay true to who we really are, without hiding or suppressing our feeling and opinions inside, we feel better in general, we feel more confident, have strong sense of self-esteem, smile more, and perform better simply because we focus on what’s in from of us vs. focusing our time and energy on everything that’s happing around us, or helping other people to feel better about themselves at our own emotional expense.
The only source of motivation and inspiration that we should ever need is already inside of us in our minds and our hearts. Only we know what’s truly motivates us to be better, to feel stronger, to perform our best every day, nobody else does. So, why lie to ourselves and others seeking external motivation and approval, when everything we need to keep moving forward in life, be happy, and be best at everything we do? No reason. It’s much easier to go about our daily lives when we don’t have to worry about saying something or act in a way that others may find to be different from their own thoughts and actions. And, by being ourselves every day, we don’t have to pretend to be somebody who we are not and know that everything that we say and do represents the truth, represents us and our unique character, without any sugarcoating. Do you agree? My hope is that by reading this short article, it will help many of us to speak more confidently in meetings, in front of others, regardless the size of the audience, look and act confidently during an interview process, while at the same time feel at ease and happy inside, knowing that we are being true to ourselves every time, everywhere, every day. Be happy, be confident, be yourself!
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