Why can't we all just be our real selves all the time and stop hiding behind our imaginary mask that we've created for everyone to see
Why can’t we all just be open and honest with each other vs. hoping that someone someday verbalizes our true thoughts and opinions to others? Why can’t we just say what’s on our mind during the conversation, when it’s most relevant vs. hiding behind someone else and then simply express our agreement with him or her, squashing our true self inside? It’s simple, we are afraid what others may think of us or for someone to overhear us and lose our image that we’ve created of ourselves for the outside world to see. The version that is acceptable by everyone and the one that does not present any points of conflict, disagreement or tension. We know that once mask has been removed, people will see our true self, our real personality, character, someone we’ve never previously introduced to others, with the exception of our closest friends and family. Here’s the problem that I see with this approach, we may have some of the best and brightest ideas, some of the most impactful and valid comments and insight, but no one will ever hear them, because, we would never speak up and share them, unless someone else happened to have similar thoughts, ideas, and comments in general, which may or may not every happen.
I’ve personally observed and been part of discussions where individuals eventually decided to share their valuable and highly impactful thoughts and ideas with the group, only to find out that those ideas are no longer applicable or cannot be implemented due to opportunity no longer being there, because, time had passed or alternative less favorable solution was already found. So, my question was always the same – “Why didn’t you share your ideas and insight earlier?” to which responses were often similar in nature, such as “I was not sure what other people may think of me or my ideas,” or “I didn’t think that my ideas were worth mentioning,” or “I did not want to cause any tension.
Here’s what’s important to remember, if you never say something you are thinking about or have an opinion about, you would never know if your idea was indeed good, or if your feedback was valid, given the situation and the type of solution which was being sought. At least when you speak up and share your true and honest thoughts, ideas, and opinions, you would receive feedback to your comments often instantly and will be able to move forward, leaving unknown behind you, freeing up space for new and powerful ideas making their way into your mind.
So, speak up when you have something to say, share your true thoughts and ideas as soon as you are presented with an opportunity to do so. Don’t bottle them up inside of you forever. Are you ready to share your wonderful ideas with the world?
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