Article 160 - Spoiled Trust

Why surround yourself with lies when truth is an obvious choice?

Why spoil someone’s trust? Why go to great lengths to create various stories, lies, vs. simply stating the truth at all times? No reason. We all know that things that we lie about eventually resurface over time, placing us in a very uncomfortable situation with those who trusted us, and who’s trust we had betrayed. Often, it may not seem like a big deal to many, however, it is always a big deal to someone on the receiving end, someone who trusted and who’s trust was broken. It doesn’t matter what happens after once we break someone’s trust, it can never be repaired, because, once we betray another person’s trust once, they will now be suspecting and expecting for us to do it again. Therefore, the only way to preserve and maintain strong trusting relationship with others is always to be honest and tell the truth, no matter how painful or uncomfortable that truth may be initially.

A lot of times, the truth itself may not be as damaging as we may think. In many situations escalations or conflict can be avoided if we simply tell the truth no matter how scary that truth may be or sound. However, when we create a lie just to cover up tough truth, over time we tend to make original situation even worse, and instead of us addressing the issue, we extend it over longer period creating more problems than solutions as a result.

So, what is the solution? Tell the truth and be honest with yourself and those around you whether it is at home or in the place of business. Honesty is highly valued and goes a long way. When we are known for being an honest person who speaks the truth no matter the circumstance, we command respect and loyalty. People are able and are willing to share their inner secrets with us, because, we can be trusted. We can be relied on to follow through with important projects, goals, and objectives. Why? Because, we had proven to others that we can be trusted. Therefore, to keep mind clear of worries, fears, hesitations, and to tackle each day not from the past but from the present with confidence and clear consciousness, remember that being truthful to yourself and others every day can be a very powerful thing in the short and long-term for you and your future. As Anton Chekhov once said: “One drop of lie spoils the ocean of trust.”​

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